Nick Duffell and Helena Lovendal are among todays leading specialists in couple/relationship therapy. Author's of the outstanding book 'Sex Love and the Dangers of Intimacy' they can be seen here talking about how the issue of adultery and how it impacts a relationship. By creating a third element it forces couples to deal and face what they have created between them. With help from a therapist/couples counsellor they can move beyond the hurt and the damage to another way of being with each other. Although this is never easy and usually quite hard work